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11:55pm Aug 24 2011

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I start college on September 21st and I am terrified.
 
Mother keeps telling me that college is very different from high school, but I'm not so sure. I've always been socially awkward and having spent the last six months or so with no unrelated contacts to associate with probably didn't help. To make matters worse I'm going early (I'm fifteen) so I'm not really sure how I should behave in a place like this. I won't be living in dorms, but I'm unsure nevertheless.
 
That said, would the lovely people of Res mind giving me some tips or just sharing their experiences to help me feel a bit better about this whole thing?



thaliaflame98

12:25am Aug 25 2011

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Which college are you attending?



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lolypop0princess

2:49pm Aug 25 2011

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 From my expirience the worst thing when you move to a new education facility (school, high school, college) is that you don't know anyone. Everything else is in the background. You should just be yourself. That always helps! And if you are scared from befrending other people just don't and wait for them to approach you. That way you won't have any fake friends, just true ones.

Now, to move to different things like the school program. It may be hard but you can do it. Everyone can do it if they have their mind in learning (as I said in the beggining, that's in the background)

Oh, and one last thing...Everything will be perfect if you are happy. Others like people with smiles. So just don't worry. Everything will be ok.

lolypop0princess

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:-)

Jenny

2:53pm Aug 25 2011

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You shouldn't be terrified. It's just like the first day of high school, except no one's going to pick on you because everyone else is too busy doing their own thing. But I agree with loly, just wait for them to approach you. It shows that they do want to be friends with you and are willing to try. (:

It's fine if you don't have friends for a while because you still need to adjust to college life. Focus on your studies for now, then make friends if you're attending the same college. 




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3:44pm Aug 25 2011

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Thalia: I'll be attending the University of Cincinnati, however I won't be on the main campus.

Lolypop: That...is probably really good advice, though I'm not really one to smile often.

Jenny: A large part of the reason I'm nervous is that there was quite a bit of drama going on in my family life last year and ended up doing my freshman year online. The people I used to be friends with dropped contact with me within a few months and it has really been a very long time since I was around people. I believe that the last time I actually had any association with someone outside of the family was February. I know it probably seems a bit irrational, but I was never really good at interacting with people in the first place especially since acting like myself only ever served to get me attacked. It was actually one of the reasons I decided to join Res, which I do believe has helped a bit, however I'm not sure how well I'll do when I don't have a screen, endless time, and an edit button to protect me. Letting people approach me is probably a good idea, but I'm just not sure how well I'll react.

I was planning to focus mainly on my studies anyhow for the time being, however one of the things that has me shakier than usual is that I needed to take a lab class for the credits. I have little doubt that I will fare well with the main classes, with the possible exception of math, and that I prefer lectures to all the hands-on group stuff we were forced to do in grade school, but this one just...people...hurr.




Jenny

4:04pm Aug 25 2011

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That usually happens after high school; people you thought were friends are usually never heard from again unless they're really close friends. I was never great with socializing with people either. I never had any friends in elementary/grade school. Hardly had any in middle school, and I barely had some close ones in high school that I chose to lose contact with. If you're not sure how you'll react, you won't know without actually trying. If you even have the chance of losing the possibility to become friends with them, oh well. It's not that big of a loss. Unless you can make them understand that that's how you are.

I hate lab classes too. But you got to do what you have to do. Even if you don't want to. You have to tolerate it for the credits. If your grade depends on working with other people or participating in class, then you kind of need to put up with it for the time being.




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4:33pm Aug 25 2011

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Ah, and again you make some great points. The worst thing about the lab class is that I had to drop a class I actually wanted to take so I could take it. I suppose you're right and I'll just have to bear with it, but I have the feeling that I'm going to be resenting that for the majority of the quarter. I also hope that I like the professor, since I have to deal with him at both the start and end of my day. >.<



Jenny

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College is like school, and school in general was never meant to be enjoyable. xD; But I do hope you get an awesome professor. o3o The first semester is going to be tough, but look at it like a trial semester; just testing things out and getting used to being a college student.



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