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gerychiakezumi	8:00pm Apr 25 2009 (last edited on 8:07pm Apr 25 2009)
Normal User Posts: 165	"We learn from our mistakes" That's got me thinking. This is the thread where people can ask questions about life/difficult situation and hopefully get feedback from other people. It could certainly help with everyday problems. -please allow at least 3 answers for each question before posting your own ��
gerychiakezumi	8:24pm Apr 25 2009 (last edited on 8:34pm Apr 25 2009)
Normal User Posts: 165	Okay, how about this for the ultimate situation. Be prepared, it might sound cheesy, but whatever, I've been stuck for some time. It all comes down to my mother's rule of no dating until I'm done with college. Don't get me wrong, I respect her rule, It's just that she let my older sister date when she was in 7th grade. That rule changed when my sister was dumped and lied behind my mom's back like four times up to her junior year in high school. Now, my situation is, I like someone, terribly.�We became quick friends, he's sweet, kind, likes everything I do, has all the approving traits my mother talks about, etc. The this is, he's in first year college now, I'm in second year high school.�He visits us�during band practice once in a while, and I remember getting red, burning, and I can't play my flute�anymore! Whenever he visits, he greets me, finds me,�and gives me�his kind gentle smile. I melt...of course, everytime.� I always pretend that I'm just his friend, I don't act like any more than�a friend. Then, there's a performance, field show, he comes along and for three hours, I'm with him, he dismisses his guy friends, just us two. Ice cream, one on one time. It's so hard to�keep it in! But I did...He seemed to be careful, but kind the whole time. Like I'm too fragile. For�six months, I'm suffering, hoping he comes but not. Now, I've gotten over�him. I'm just afraid he will come so I can fall in love all over again. It hurts everytime, but I can't stay away. My friends tell me to confess to him, but I can't risk my loyalty to my mother or the fact of telling�him he'll have to wait for me...I've been stuck and it's horrible.�� http://www.imeem.com/boamusic/music/p5tL3GZY/boa-obsessed/
1ran	8:35pm Apr 25 2009
Normal User Posts: 917	I think you should tell him your feelings, even if you can't date. If he says he likes you or not, at least you'd have a heavy load off of your shoulders. I hope that helps, I'm not an expert in love.
GG	8:43pm Apr 25 2009 (last edited on 8:45pm Apr 25 2009)
Normal User Posts: 470	I think you should consider looking else where. At least until your a decent age. He's a man. And your still a child. Mothers say things and make rules for a reason.
gerychiakezumi	10:41pm Apr 26 2009
Normal User Posts: 165	hmmm...i think i'll wait. it won't be too hard. i can just occupy my time on other things. thanks gothic and 1. i don't know why it was such a big deal. maybe because it's my first reachable crush. oh well. being just friends is fine. ^.^
Ping	2:17am Apr 27 2009 (last edited on 2:21am Apr 27 2009)
Normal User Posts: 1,775	Don't bother with love at such a young age. Focus on studies. Oh yeah, what's the age difference between first year college and second year high school? (Is british system schooled) I (HATE)' YOU Feel the love man D:<
eclipseluvr22	9:00am Apr 27 2009
Normal User Posts: 7	Why should I confide in somebody I don't know? When all else fails... read twilight. My nickname is rainbow, but my friends call me peekboo. That's what you get when you let your heart win, oh oh whoa. I give good advice sometimes. Forever wandering on the road to no where.
Outsane	10:23am Apr 27 2009
Normal User Posts: 2,148	Anonymity helps one pour out their soul. They feel that in some embarrassing moments in their life, they need some one who they don't know, and who doesn't know them, to turn to. It's exactly why people phone help lines. � �I agree with Ping. Getting in a love life right now would only hurt your grades, I know this from experience. I dropped dating after I got to my senior year in highschool and my grades were great that whole year. Though if you don't care about that stuff or feel that you can totally handle school and dating, then go for it. Do as GothicGal says. Older dudes are creepers and could only get you in trouble. xD Guys your age are A-OKAY. XDD
gerychiakezumi	6:20pm Apr 27 2009 (last edited on 6:23pm Apr 27 2009)
Normal User Posts: 165	Ping: 3 years eclipse: thanks... tainted: thank you. exactly, im just confused is all. it's one of the worst situations i've ever been in...i need it to end, because i don't want a love life, just...how do i put this, closure? luckily ive finally been able to cope with it a bit lately. yes. i care about my grades. he's a good guy, really, just the age difference.
Ping	2:49am Apr 28 2009
Normal User Posts: 1,775	3 years? That isn't a big difference. I don't see how this age difference is a problem. If it were like 20 years or something, that is a problem. What's the deal about 3 itty bitty years? I (HATE)' YOU Feel the love man D:<
Outsane	8:36am Apr 28 2009
Normal User Posts: 2,148	Three years isn't that much of a difference. Heck, I dated a guy who's 4 years older than me. xD But it's good to hear that you're coping. Hope all goes well for ya.
gerychiakezumi	9:22pm Apr 28 2009
Normal User Posts: 165	Ping: ...i don't know, all that's left is my mom's rules. eck! 20 years? that's gross. haha tainted: i guess not. im in a pretty stuck situation huh? :P thanks. i hope i can continue. i heard he's visiting next saturday for a bandish party/awards. T_T i don't know if i can cope after that again.
Ping	1:55am Apr 29 2009
Normal User Posts: 1,775	Actually marriage between people who are a few decades apart is more common than you think, dude. My parents are 6 years apart, so 3 years isn't a problem. But I still suggest no one should attempt having a love life while they are still in studies. It's a waste of time. I (HATE)' YOU Feel the love man D:<

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